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Need some encouragement and knew you guys could lift me up a bit. I am so sad and depressed about this.
I was laid of Tuesday and yes I should be able to collect unemployment, but the company I worked for was like a family to me.
I am so devastated about that more than I am about the job part, although we are entirely screwed financially now, but thats a different issue.
I have been crying for three days straight. This is the first day that I didn't wake up in hysterics!
There were 12 of us total so I wasn't alone, but boy oh boy does it hurt.... This company has taken care of me and my family over the last two years (due to my son prematurity and my illness) and they are like family to me.
I think I am having seperation anxiety. Ijust can't get over it... I need you guys to tell me I'll be OK.
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EtherealGirl
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I lost my job two weeks ago, so I can empathize. I should be able to collect as well, but the insurance premiums are going to break me.
Good luck to you. Are you looking for another job? I'm thinking of taking the summer off, and I start college in the fall. It's good to have a plan. Things have a way of working out.
Dekrator48
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Hi Erika,
So sorry that this has happened to you.
It is no fault of your own, so take a deep breath and take it one step at a time.
Get signed up for unemployment first.
Then, like Holly said...make a plan.
Easier said than done I know....but if you can, make looking for a job your full-time job.
Be relentless....put applications in everywhere and keep checking back regularly with prospective employers so they will know that you are serious about wanting a job.
Try to be optimistic. Try thinking of ways to make money that are not the norm.
Have a yard sale.....sell on ebay...etc.
I wish you only the best and I do think that everything will work out.
Have faith.
-------------------- The fibromyalgia I've had for 32 years was an undiagnosed Lyme symptom.
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bettyg
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erika
oh no, not another great loss in your turmoil life! i'm so sorry to read this. but as you said; it was 12 people NOT JUST YOU so that is comforting a little also.
go to top of SUPPORT, and print off the suggestions in top post about what to do....; go to last page of replies and i posted melanie reber's FINANCIAL RESOURCES; print that off too.
then you can start immediately reading thru and contacting folks that can help you thru this maze of things.
we're HERE 23/7 for you erika; post anytime your rants, etc. and now when you need endless shoulders to cry on for support.
take a deep breath and take ONE STEP ONLY forward instead of looking at the ENTIRE picture right now which is simply overwhelming my friend.
Sorry about the news and I am not sure your circumstances but things do seem to have a way of working out.
Besides, I just checked out your website (great pictures by the way and very inspirational) and if your son Bryce can get through what he has gone through I think his mom can be just as tough and will be just fine. So just hang in there! :-)
-David
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Thinking of you!
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Tincup
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Oh dear, this breaks my heart to hear all these horror stories.
My prayers go out to you all.
Sometimes, when a job isn't just a "job" ... it's a family....
These types of things can be even more wicked and stressful to handle.
Not to mention the financial burden involved. GEEZE!
I spoke to a friend the other day whose hubby has no work- self employed.... so no unemployment either.
They have several children and several rescued animals she cares for.
The wife has been cleaning homes but has lost most of her jobs due to the bad economy.
They lost their phone last week... and their electric has been cut off as of 3 days ago.
To eat they managed to put in a small garden, and they have been eating crabs... day in and day out... for weeks now.
Each night she stays up late baiting lines for local watermen.
She has to cut up fresh eels and pack them in salt brine.
Then she hand ties chunks of the eels to a long, long rope at various intervals.... and then coils up the lines inside a big barrel so they are ready to go.
She is mosquito bitten so badly her skin looks like a cheese grater attacked her. You have to do this messy, stinky job outside, and the bug stuff hasn't helped.
Her fingers are raw from the hours they are working in the salt brine and with the ropes.
She is young and healthy but is loosing hope.
I hear the worry and sadness in her voice. I see the kids sinking and struggling to deal.
I had no help for her other than a basket of food and some time to watch the kids...
But I told her something that may help you.
I've been in those shoes. MANY times. I've lost everything I had, not once, but after I regrouped and was able to breath, it happened again... and all because of Lyme.
Many days I wondered how I could possibly make it another day and how would I keep my family in tact.
I cried because I thought we would literally starve for lack of food and I was too proud to ask for help.
I cried because this was no way to live and I thought my troubles were too many for one person to handle.
I cried because I thought we would just fall off the edge of the earth or just die.
Well, we didn't.
In spite of all my worrying.. it didn't happen.
We managed to make it. We ate not much other than beans and potatoes for months at a time.
We stayed in a tent for months .. making it a "fun camping out experience".
And what got us through must have been our prayers.
Prayer got us through in spite of all the odds against us.
So remeber this if you will.
The worry will not help get you anywhere but more down.
Like Dekrator said.. the best thing you can do is pick yourself up, brush yourself off and make a plan.
And to use the words my daddy told me regarding financial issues... which I REALLY didn't appreciate at the time of course and thought sounded really stupid...
You've got two things you can do.
Make more money or spend less.
Yeah, told you it sounded stupid.
But if you sit down with a piece of paper... you can plan how you can get that done.
It ain't easy... but it can be done.
Don't know if any of this will help, but I hope you will be inspired by it and know that we are here and most importantly...
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So sorry to hear this my god you have been through the ringer!
Reminds me of when I lost my fiance, job and found out my house was getting foreclosed on all in the same week...I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown.
That was all about a 1 1/2 after a really bad divorce from a 10 yr. marriage.I pulled over a few times when driving, crying so hard that I threw up on the side of the road.
You will get through it one day at a time. Try not to make yourself sick. You will have to give it to god and keep the faith that he already has it all figured out. All you can do is put one foot in front of the other and just get through today, tomorrow will work itself out & be kind to yourself.
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