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I don't think a 32" tv as small, but I get your point. 13" is small You can tell how old one of my tvs is in the extra room. It's 13", lol. Do they even make them that small anymore?
Randi...I know you're angry at your H. This isn't a 2x4 coming your way, really it isn't. I'm just not quite sure what you want. You know he's not going to change. He is what he is, and that's just the way it is. You can't change another person, all you can do is change how you react to that person.
He's going to continue to anger you, b/c he's going to continue to disrespect and discount you. Then he's going to throw you a snippet or two to keep you hanging in. Financial security goes a long way, I get that.
All I can tell you is that when I gave my EX the boot for the final time, I had reached the point where I'd have lived in a cardboard box and eaten out of trash cans before I would have spent another second with him. And I struggled, no doubt. But the peace of mind I had was worth ANYTHING that I had to deal with. Finances could be fixed...HE COULDN'T.
So...now that I've run my "mouth", I'll just give you a hug. And let you know that it really doesn't have to be this way. Posts: 624 | From Oklahoma | Registered: Jun 2010
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Wow, that sucks! You have a right to be angry. Hot dangit, I know how you feel! Refuse to sleep on the couch! Refuse! Refuse! I'm ****ed just thinking about it. I told my husband once to go the barn with the jackass. I'll get in his face in a New York minute now.
Go girl, stand up for yourself....unless he's violent.
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Randibear: Idea! Tell your hubby you have a friend from SW ARkansas that's coming to stay at your house for a week and he needs to stay on the couch while you have a slumber party. Then feed him some brownies full of Ex-lax.
-------------------- Early Disseminated LD- 2010. Currently doing acupuncture and yoga. Negative Igenex (IND & Pos Bands) ISSUES AFTER: Tendonitis, letter reversal, Low immune system. PREVENTION:SaltC,Iodine,Humaworm, Chiropractic. Posts: 1013 | From In a van down by the river. | Registered: Jun 2010
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Hey, Misfit.. Don't knock our 13" TV's!! I have one about 3 ft from my computer. I watch it all the time while I'm on here! It's actually my favorite TV. (well, sorta) Has a great picture!
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Ditto, Misfit, that's all I can say at this point.
-------------------- You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.'
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map1131
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Since your husband wants you to feed them breakfast...it would be very nice of you to serve them breakfast in your bed while they watch your TV and use his new Blu-ray.
If you treat them as king and queen they will come back as often as possible.
Don't have a stroke or heart attack dear. Breath deep breaths. Exhale. After all remember that every dog has his day.
Take care of you(well after you take care of your quest)!!!!!
Pam
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randibear
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hey lyme, i have a perfectly good dvd player, really only used a couple of times.
if you want i'll send it to you, FREE......
he said we should have a garage sale but i'd rather send it to you.
if you're interested please me know.
it's a phillips i think. but practically brand spanking new.
send me a pm and let me know.
there's more than one way to skin a cat.
and i'm going shopping.......
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Sorry, misfit wrote very tactfully what my thoughts are too.
You've written similar anti-husband complaining posts for years...apparently he ain't gonna change & neither are you.
laugh, spend money and for pete's sake enjoy the visit with your son & daughter in law.
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Shopping is therapy! And it sounds like you need a HUGE dose of therapy! Matter of fact, maybe your therapy could be done in Los Angeles, Nashville, New York City, etc.
Hang in and hang on, you're on our hearts and minds here in the frozen tundra of Idaho.
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I'm with Misfit and dmc. I didn't realize how bad things were for me until my now ex left me.
It took about a week to know there was no way on earth we were going to get back together. I am so much happier now.
If you don't take care of yourself, nobody else is going to do it.
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randibear
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well let me say i want to apologize for everyone about posting my problems.
i don't have cancer and don't have all the problems the rest of you do.
i am truly sorry.
i won't be posting anything else about this situation.
again, i am sorry and i apologize.
maybe it's time i just took a break and gave you all a break too.
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Randi..I've been "doing" message board for years. And in all but one, the reason for them is for advice and/or support.
That's why I asked what it is that you want. I'm always wondering exactly what it is that any particular poster is needing from me. Are they needing advice? Support? Just an ear? With me, you have to be very specific. If you just want to vent and have me agree with you, I can certainly do that. I can comisserate well.
I've worried about you. You continue to have increasing health issues, and I don't believe they're all related to Lyme. But I'm sure no doctor here, and I could be wrong. I just lived the effects of stress first hand. I saw my health improve exponentially when I split from my H. I went off my blood pressure meds. I went from having migraines 2-3 times a week to once a year. I flushed my anxiety meds. I FELT BETTER.
If anyone understands fear of the unknown, it's me. And if I'm off base here, then forgive me. If you're fine with where you're at, at this point in your life...that's fine with me. But if it's fear that keeps you rooted..then I understand that as well.
For the record..we never had to live in a cardboard box, and we never ate out of trash cans. It wasn't easy..but then neither was living with my H. It became a nightmare of epic proportions.
My hope for you is that you empower yourself. Don't allow anyone to make you sicker than you already are. Lyme sufferers are supposed to avoid stress (understanding that we can't avoid ALL of it). My own sister told me many, MANY years ago "if you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting". Those were words to live by. Truly.
Maybe do things differently when dealing with your H. No doubt your reactions to him are just as predictable as his actions are. In a long term marriage, it just gets to be that way. I'm not advocating for you to leave him..that's simply none of my business. I'm advocating for YOU..for YOU to become healthier. For YOU to become stronger. In many ways.
It can be done.
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Randibear is one of the kindest most generous and caring people I know. Do not bash her. She is simply looking for advice and support, that is what this board is here for.
If someone comes to one of my support meetings, I dont tell them that "So, your life sucks, get over it. It ain't cancer, or your child isn't dying, you haven't lost a loved one in war, you haven't gone to war, and on & on...."
that was rude and uncalled for.
you need to rethink what you are doing on a support board in the first place dmc.
this is a big problem in her life and she needs us. If you only knew this woman, you would wash your mouth out with soap right this minute!
grrrrr....
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I agree with Merrygirl and thanks for posting that. Hang in there Randibear. I DO feel your pain.
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Retail therapy works for me!
-------------------- Do not take this as medical advice. This comment is based on opinion and personal experience only.
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Listening and being there for Randi with no judgement is the compassionate, caring thing to do. It's very easy to comment on someone elses situation looking in from the outside.
It's not always easy to figure your way out when your in it. This is a support forum and as stated she has been there for a lot of people when they were in need.
Gael
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randibear
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thank you all for your concern.
i took all personal items out of the bedroom.
it looks like a hotel. there is not one thing on the dresser, wall unit, or chest of drawers.
there is a lamp on each nightstand and one clock on one.
that's it...
it's sterile.
nothing in the bathroom area, no soap dishes, no frilly stuff, NOTHING.....
and i took all my makeup, toothbrushes, girly stuff and just threw them in the other bathroom. he said "well it's going to be tough sharing a bathroom" and i said "get a grip and get used to it"....
he wanted them to have this, so they got it...
i am so bad.....
i'm off to the beauty shop to get my hair done!!!
get outtta the way, i've got the credit card!!!
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Good for you!
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I'm with you , Randibear! I like to vent about my spousey sometimes. I just want someone to listen and validate, that's all. I agree with retail therapy. However, I've tried to curb it by shopping at the Salvation ARmy thrift store to save money, plus give to a worthy cause.
Go girl!
-------------------- Early Disseminated LD- 2010. Currently doing acupuncture and yoga. Negative Igenex (IND & Pos Bands) ISSUES AFTER: Tendonitis, letter reversal, Low immune system. PREVENTION:SaltC,Iodine,Humaworm, Chiropractic. Posts: 1013 | From In a van down by the river. | Registered: Jun 2010
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- Library "shopping" is the safest. Take home all sort of books, DVDs, CDs, colorful craft, geography, travel and art books - all for no cost and some to keep for months if no one else reserves them. -
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