I feel like there maybe just needs to be some time to step away from the stress and see where things land. It is very messy, unpredictable, and frustrating. Honestly, this all just sucks.
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randibear
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just to help you out.
my first husband was an officer in the air force. we were overseas. he had an affair with his secretary who was married to an airman.
she got pregnant!! he left me, she left her husband and they got married less than a week after our divorce.
i was devastated. people kept telling me things, but i wouldn't listen. hell, i think everyone knew but me...
it took five years before i would even go on a date, i was so messed up.
but what goes around comes around. after being married to him for about 20 years, she divorced him, took his military pay...so paybacks are *****es.
i hate to say it, but i felt vindicated.
so bad things do happen. you can't control them.
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quote:Originally posted by thehause: Mike - solid advice. Thanks for the words.
I feel like there maybe just needs to be some time to step away from the stress and see where things land. It is very messy, unpredictable, and frustrating. Honestly, this all just sucks.
Indeed it does man. There is good news though. If things don't workout, someone else is likely to fill the slot that you'll love. I say "likely" because that's generally what I see happen. So, there is the upside.
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RDaywillcome
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I knew of an Army R.O.T.C. Captain and his wife was an RN. He started snapping and was so irritable and his wife didn't know who this wonderful easy going guy was.
He had been out in the fields and weeks after becoming irritable, he ended up with Bells Palsy.
Guess what? He didn't test right away for Lyme but eventually did.
If it's true love, she'll be there for you. If not, it wasn't meant to be. Give her space and try not to be needy. Posts: 1738 | From over the rainbow | Registered: Jul 2009
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Haley
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Hey Hause. I completely feel your pain. I'm not sure what the current status is of your relationship but I hope that things can still work out.
My boyfriend of 8 years recently ended our relationship. He told me that he resented my illness, of course there were other issues. He is also a doctor; I know that he didn't want to talk about illness when he came hame as he dealt with it all day. I rarely mentioned the word Lyme.
I also went through all of the stages when we split - panic, uncontrollable sadness and pain (like a knife in my stomach). We never did reconcile. I deal with loneliness but also have a sense of freedom because I don't have to feel guilty about being ill.
If there is someone else in the picture (another man) it may be more difficult to reconcile but not impossible.
The first thing you need to do is stop groveling and begging. Act as if you will be fine. Tell her that you hope it will work out but if not it's probably best. No one can love someone out of pity.
I recommend an older book called love must be tough. I think it will be helpful.
I'm keeping you in my prayers.
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Haley, thank you. I should have posted this as I was noticing things going south. I just got off the phone with her where I did a lot of repetitive question asking and explaining of my recent beahvior (meds). It looked like I was just dumping all over myself and she absolutely got angry and annoyed. SO, we're not getting back together. What's strange is that I know my beahvior is wrong, I just can't control myself. THAT IS NEW. Is it lyme related? Maybe we'll talk again in a few months, but right now, its totally cut off and over. I blew it further tonight. Posts: 372 | From west of the mississitty | Registered: Jul 2009
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Haley
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Hause. I'm really sorry. Hang in there.
I know that we do crazy things when we see the one we love drifting away. I don't think it's lyme, I think it's probably panic, which is normal. Try your best to stay cool.
Make sure you have some friends that you can share your inner most thoughts with. If you don't have any, it's time to get out and find some.
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Maybe it's time for you to work on your needs for awhile, which includes Lyme treatment - are you doing any treatment? Yes, Lyme affects our mind!
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I am on oral ABX, but I really haven't shown much improvement in the two years I've been on them. I should say much improvement at least regarding my neuro issues - feel like my memory is horrible, my ability to think deep and recognize issues is non-existent, and like I have a very bad attention span.
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