If God is not at the center of a marriage, it will be very difficult to sustain. That does NOT mean that those who have God in their lives have a free pass on pain and discontent! Not so at all.
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Tutu - I agree, but I think the problem is that most of us don't have God at the center of our lives... even some of us who would claim that He is.
Most guys look for the prettiest girl that they can attain. That's unfortunate, because usually the prettier ones are more troublesome. They have a higher chance of leaving you, and a higher chance of cheating on you. Plus you'd always have to be worried that other guys are flirting with her. Dang, that would be annoying. Plus you don't know what she's doing on Facebook behind your back...
I would only marry a pretty girl if she was super religious. Then I would make sure she always dressed modestly, like a Muslim or something. It would be awesome if she could keep her face covered up in public... at least until she's past her prime.
But if I was going to get married, I'd definitely want to marry a religious chubby girl with a good personality. You can't get better than that, IMO.
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what?????
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quote:Originally posted by James1979: that most of us don't have God at the center of our lives... even some of us who would claim that He is.
Very true.
I hope you're kidding about the covering up!!
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I was mostly joking about the covering-up part, but I do think the practice has some virtues. Too bad a thing like that would never happen in the US.�
At least if married girls could dress modestly, that would be nice - especially if they are attractive. Why in the world would they want to dress extra sexy if they are already attractive anyway? Do they want other guys to look at them? Do their husbands want other guys to drool over the wife? Are they trying to scandalize other guys by making them lust over a married woman?
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They just want to look nice. Today's style of dress is pretty "out there." I personally am glad I grew up in a more modest era.
I'm sure young girls feel pressured by society to look sexy. It's all they've ever known... it's all over TV, etc. It's really not necessary to dress that way.
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EXACTLY, Tutu!!
That's why I mentioned in a previous post that I think Western media has caused problems with marriages.
Dang, even the "religious" girls dress like prostitutes today. And their mothers, too!
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James...too funny. At oure Church any thing goes and I mean any thing.
I grew up in a very concervative Baptist church. I can't get past some of the young girls walking in wearing short shorts.
What ever happened to Sunday church wear?
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I too was raised very conservative. I do not understand wearing pajamas and no undergarments in public. Oh well but I want to add a word of caution about jumping out there And dating so soon. You may think you Are ok and can handle it but believe me you can't. Times have changed and you need to learn to enjoy being yourself first and feeling comfortable with being alone.' dating should be the last thing on your mind. Also it's too early to start bringing other women around your kids. All I am saying is to take it slow and do not rush or you'll end up in Another mess.
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With all due respect Randi, I believe my head is in the right place. I am not bringing another woman around my kids but I also need to move on with my life. It will be a gradual process by not rushing into anything. My overall well being is much better and that has been absent for a long time.
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no offense meant it's just better to be safe than sorry. I have seen too many friends end up in play misty for me type of relations. I didn't date for about two years after my divorce
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It's always sad to see a marriage fall apart. I certainly understand. You do what you feel is right for your particular situation. What's good for one is not necessarily good for another. Heck, I'm moving in with my Dad temporarily to help keep an eye on him since his dementia is getting worse.
My spouse has been miserable the last few months so this will give him a break from me. No plans to divorce, just doing what's best for all. It's not comfortable nor do I really want to do this, but it's the best alternative for a situation that needs change.
I'm glad you are getting on your feet and pray you make a peaceful transmission.
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well i was the dumpee not the dumpor and that makes a big difference. plus i had absolutely no clue what was going on, none...
just wish you the best.
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