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OMG Annier, of course your family understands, but no one wants you to go without Christmas gifts. I really don't think Julie meant to imply that helping you was a problem. I think she's trying to make sure neither you, nor anyone else gets overlooked. We are just all so sorry for you.
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If you have a huge mortgage on the house, I am wondering if you still have any equity in the house, because of the decline in house values the last couple of years.
If you don't want to stay in the house, or can't because the house payments are too much, one alternative is to walk away and let the bank take it. They will foreclose and it will hurt your credit, so there are also reasons not to do this.
Depends on your situation and what you want to do. Probably very hard to think or plan at this point.
If you want to stay and the payments are too much, there is a govt program to help refinance the house and lower the payments. Have heard that it doesn't help as many people as they originally hoped it would, and there are hoops to jump thru, but if you are consulting professional help, this would be one thing to look into.
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Wow and we think we had it bad. I'm so sorry for your loss! I'm sorry you're having to go through all this alone!
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Please don't let us 'thinking out loud' on here sound wrong or uncaring to you.
This is just the opposite. Many of us would like to help you in whatever way we can.
If we all lived in the same neighborhood, we could bring meals, slip $10. under your door or whatever.
It gets so big because we do care and we are so dispersed.
You are in our prayers and thoughts. We need to help each other, we're in this together.
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Oh my, Annie. There are no words. I'm so very sorry.
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Dkat...God bless you for your thoughts. I am just in such pain emotionally now. I know that one day I will be with my husband again, pain and dizzy free and we will enjoy each other for eternity. That is all I need right now, is my dreams.
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I am so sorry. May the Holy Spirit be your comforter in the days ahead.
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I just read through this - am very sorry for what you're going through -
I hope you will at least be getting help to get to the doctor as needed, whether it be through your daughters, or maybe some help from a local NY Lyme support group? They would be listed with Support Groups.
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I am sorry that Alana's request is causing a problem. You do not have to put me on this list.I dont want to get anyone into trouble.
THank you for your offering to help me. I am trying to stay afloat and began to sell everyting in my home. I told my family already that we cannot have xmas gifts anymore. We will just go to the cemetery and celebrate with my husband. They understand. Ann
It isn't a problem to put your family on the Green Santa list at all. I was just trying to let Alana and others know that if they want to help you specifically, then it needs to be done another way.
Sorry my post was misunderstood - I really tried to word it so that it wouldn't get misread.
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I got to my GP with my daughter but they have taken off too many days already while my husband was in ICU upstate. They would not let me stay alone up there in a hotel.
I am not going to my lyme doctor. THere is not way in this world I could lay out that money ever. I just have to hope for the best right now.
I have been putting many things on amazon and ebay and making a small amount of money, but it helps right now. I am figuring it will be just a few months before I lose the house..hoping it is after the cold winter ahead!
God has to have some relief ahead for me. This cant be my life now.
-------------------- Diagnosed with chronic neuro lyme 12/10 after 30 years of vertigo.2 tick bites in 3 yrs from upstate NY. Was on omincef for nine mths..zith and rifampin stopped.Remission~ All the pain and symptoms are back and I am not treating now with biaxin. Posts: 788 | From New york..queens | Registered: Nov 2010
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Annier, you're in my thoughts and prayers.
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Annier, may God wrap His loving arms around you through this. I am still praying for you, and will continue to do so.
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Annie,
I just saw this thread now. OMG, i was worried about you before . . . but this is beyond the beyond!!! I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. This, on top of what you were dealing with already, due to the Lyme, etc., has to be unbearable. And his ex's family, yikes! You need the help of an excellent lawyer ASAP. ANd surely they would be willing to do a phone consult or house call under the circumstances. Get a referral for someone who is good with this kind of case.
You need lots of help of every variety right now, as people have been suggesting. Please don't be shy about asking for it, be it here, from a lawyer, from a church, etc.
You also need to look into tapping into your husband's social security benefits, unless that isn't possible yet, due to his age (I don't know how that works). Here again, a good lawyer could help, or a social worker, or both would be good. A good social worker could help you to tap into whatever social agencies could help right now and on-going.
As people have said, you also need the help of a lawyer in a malpractice lawsuit, too. That might be a different lawyer from the will issue.
Make sure that you have a good SSDI lawyer to help on that front, too. Wow, you need someone to help on every front---what an assault! Lord have mercy on you.
Yes, call a church and see how they can help, as it is way too much for you to do all by yourself. Plus, you need someone to help you get to your dr appointments, etc. What about Access-a-Ride for that? I'm sure that you are eligible for that. Or do you need even more help than that to negotiate getting from the vehicle to the building, etc.?
Oh, and on the LLMD issue, I will PM you in the next day or so with some ideas I have on how to deal with that. That shouldn't be neglected, but you don't have to go back to the same one.
Lord lift her up! And all of us lift you up, too.
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Thank you so much for all the advice. I cancelled my lyme doc appt for tues..there is no way I can afford to see him anymore or even to get there.
I had applied for access a ride last years and was denied (hard to believe but true!) I called SSD and I am entitled to 71% of my husbands SS benefits since I just turned 50 and am disabled. It is minimal but it is something.
I called the councilman here and they sent me papers for disabiliy tax exemption papers for the house. There is so much involved in doing them and I am half a brain anyway now...but will try.
I had a two malpractice lawyers who have now decided not to take the case. They said since there was no autopsy (I never knew they didnt do one and never even thought of it at the time) it would be too hard to prove the overdose of the drug. God has to give me strength because we all know that the hospital caused his death. he was fine until this med was given to him and now he is gone from us.
I have to see what a probate lawyer costs (looking for the cheap ones) to contest the will. His ex got everything and took everything from me except this house that is under our names but newly mortgaged so I am sure she wouldnt want this one. I just cant think of fighting right now for any of my rights but I think I have to get the strength.
I need prayers right now to even go on. Luv Ann
-------------------- Diagnosed with chronic neuro lyme 12/10 after 30 years of vertigo.2 tick bites in 3 yrs from upstate NY. Was on omincef for nine mths..zith and rifampin stopped.Remission~ All the pain and symptoms are back and I am not treating now with biaxin. Posts: 788 | From New york..queens | Registered: Nov 2010
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You may want to call the bar association for your state, maybe a law school, maybe some big law firms around and ask if they do any pro bono (free) work for those in need. That would be ideal. Sometimes bigger law firms can better afford to do pro bono work and you can get a top notch lawyer for free
I just googled "new York pro bono attorneys" and there were a lot of links. Many of them were directed at lawyers wanting to do pro bono work but you could still call them to get information and/or ask for a referral. Heres one link but there were several. http://www.probono.net/ny/nyc/
I sure hope you can find someone to help out here.
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I got legal shield from the internet..25 dollars a month and they give you a contact number and claim number to a local law firm..Mine is in suffolk county.
I hope I am not being scammed but the seem to be legit from what I have read. The regular lawyers wanted 750 an hour!!! I couldnt talk that fast!
-------------------- Diagnosed with chronic neuro lyme 12/10 after 30 years of vertigo.2 tick bites in 3 yrs from upstate NY. Was on omincef for nine mths..zith and rifampin stopped.Remission~ All the pain and symptoms are back and I am not treating now with biaxin. Posts: 788 | From New york..queens | Registered: Nov 2010
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Good find. I mentioned in a previous post that under NY state law a spouse cannot disinherit his wife.
The real question is did his will still name his previous wife in it. If it did I am sure that will, will be deemed null and void as it relates to the ex-wife, as she is no longer the legal spouse.
The children will be entitled to their share but the courts will have to decide, since there was not an updated will since your marriage, how the estate will be divided under the law of New York State.
In effect, the old will cannot be followed to the letter, as it's in violation of the law.
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Hoping and praying it all works out. May you receive your fair portion of his estate and may you have complete healing of your body and your heart!
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just for information. my husband's friend was married a while ago, divorced and got a new wife.
died within a couple of years. did not update any personal information.
the old will left everything to his first wife. even his insurance policies were made out to her.
new wife sued, lost. first wife took everything including the stuff that was in joint name. reason: she owned his half and since the new wife did not have enough money to buy her out, she had to sell and give her the money.
crazy but that's what happened.
as soon as i got married (he had a first wife and two kids), i made him redo that will and insurance policies. i got nosey and had the checking accounts, house, etc., everything change. i looked into old credit cards, you name it.
now everything is made out to me, as it should be.
so for what's it worth, the courts and lawyers cannot always help. sorry but it's true.
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Randi - each state has different laws. So I wouldn't want Annie to feel discouraged over something that happened in another state.
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you're absolutely right. this guy was from ohio.
i live in texas, a community property state.
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All the best to you. It is hard. But time heals. And the memory lives.
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Thank you all for the advice on lawyers. I have called a legal aid that is helping me.
Gigi...Why do I feel angry at him for leaving me when we just started our lives? It makes me feel so guilty and friday night is so lonely.
-------------------- Diagnosed with chronic neuro lyme 12/10 after 30 years of vertigo.2 tick bites in 3 yrs from upstate NY. Was on omincef for nine mths..zith and rifampin stopped.Remission~ All the pain and symptoms are back and I am not treating now with biaxin. Posts: 788 | From New york..queens | Registered: Nov 2010
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I went to the bank today and the manager came to me and told me that his exwife had a lawyer call there to ask how much money was in our accounts?
She said she would not give that info since our names were on them and not hers, but she said "what nerve she has!"
I cant take anymore, everywhere I go they tell me she has already been there filing paperwork. I have nothing, not a thing to live on right now and she wants even more!
All lawyers say that I am entitled to 1/3 even with the will since his two sons are named in it but now I am the spouse...but I cannot afford a lawyer..just legal aid and all they give is advice on the phone.
I cannot even grieve when all I do is live in fear of what is next. No more lyme treatments for me, all docs cancelled. I give up!
-------------------- Diagnosed with chronic neuro lyme 12/10 after 30 years of vertigo.2 tick bites in 3 yrs from upstate NY. Was on omincef for nine mths..zith and rifampin stopped.Remission~ All the pain and symptoms are back and I am not treating now with biaxin. Posts: 788 | From New york..queens | Registered: Nov 2010
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i'd really like to get ahold of that ____tch...
honey, my first husband got another man's wife pregnant. i was so stupid. he left me and she divorced her husband. they got married 5 days after our divorce.
i had nothing. everything i had was in europe. all i had were the clothes on my back. i stayed at my mom and dad's until he threw me out. great....
i finally got a job, a tiny tiny apartment (only cost 150 a month now that's small)...i slept on the floor in front of the door, i was that terrified. i was only making about 6 grand a year and had to buy a car, etc.
thank god i got a good lawyer. i took him to the cleaners. but he tried everything in the book but i won at least some money. never got the furniture back or other stuff.
i could tell you stories that would make your hair curl. like him calling my parents!!! grrrr.
but it paid off, she left him and took half of his retirement and all. so he got what he deserved.
bottom line -- you'll have to stand up hon. it's tough, god, i know it is, i have been there. you'll have to fight for every penny. but research, learn, ask friends, ministers, anybody. the information is out there. sometimes a teaching law school or something might help.
maybe somebody at church. the local women's shelter is a great resource.
my lawyer fees were only 1200 and he waited until it was all settled. bless his heart...
whatever you do, don't give up. yell, scream, cry, let it out.
but go after her. you have to. i learned the hard way and maybe it's what made me what i am today. but don't give up.
and start digging in your husband's papers, his business, anything you can think of, insurance company, health insurance, home owners, credit cards, military records, bank records, anything.
you'll learn. and get those locks on the house changed asap.
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Ann,
I'm so sorry you are going through all this.
Is it possible to find a lawyer who will not charge you by the hour, but will charge a percentage of whatever you win?
This way, they collect when it's all over.
Sometimes lawyers will give a choice of which way you want to pay.
Praying for you to find all the answers you need, and to receive all the strength and resources you need to get through this.
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Ann - please call the bank manager and ask her to write down what happened. You need it all in writing. It's best to get her to write it and date it now before she can be accused of forgetting the details.
Legal aid is great but you need a lawyer. Do you have a friend or relative who can help you call around and look for a lawyer who will work pro bono or at least on a contingency (they only collect when/if you win).
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I have to thank those who sent me messages and gifts. You made me smile and feel so blessed that you even thought of me at this time.
I managed to get a lawyer who was happy to take the case for me. He said, after reading my husbands divorce decree that it states his wife may never serve as an executor of his will in the event of his death.
He is checkign the courts here and upstate to see if she filed to probate his will. If so, she is in violation of the will and it is moot. I will then have to file an objection in court and take control of the will. It sounds like it is going to be messing as the lawyer stated but pretty straight forward. I wish it didnt have to be this way. It scares me and feels so wrong.
The lawyer will take his 5% at the end of all that is collected in his estate (he said 15-20 thousand to pay them!) but it will take a long time.
Thanx for all your advice and support. I really needed it.
-------------------- Diagnosed with chronic neuro lyme 12/10 after 30 years of vertigo.2 tick bites in 3 yrs from upstate NY. Was on omincef for nine mths..zith and rifampin stopped.Remission~ All the pain and symptoms are back and I am not treating now with biaxin. Posts: 788 | From New york..queens | Registered: Nov 2010
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i'm so glad for you. it sounds like he knows what he is doing.
you've got a long road ahead but be strong. you can do this.
from someone who KNOWS......
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Ann, it may feel wrong, because it is wrong. But keep in mind, it is HER that is wrong. You are only defending your rights. Maybe now that you have a lawyer, you can take your mind off this a little.
Praying for you to find some joy this holiday season.
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Ann,
That is great news that you have a lawyer who can help you and that it looks like the tide has turned in your favor.
Please hang in there so you can get what is due to you. Do not feel bad about receiving what is really yours.
Just keep praying, trusting and believing!
Philippians 4:6-9(NIV)
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.
9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
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quote:Originally posted by jlp38: Ann, it may feel wrong, because it is wrong. But keep in mind, it is HER that is wrong. You are only defending your rights. Maybe now that you have a lawyer, you can take your mind off this a little.
Praying for you to find some joy this holiday season.
- Amen to that!!
"..if she filed to probate his will. If so, she is in violation of the will and it is moot."
That would be great and it wouldn't surprise me one bit for her to do that!
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Oh God, Why me? I got a letter in the mail today from the ex lawyer and it contained the will. My husband wrote this will in 2006 right after his disability retirement. I remember that they would not allow him to declare the 18K in taxes from his upstate property since he made so little money, so he added his son to the deed up there (it was always going to them anyway) so that his son could use the tax deduction.
We were not yet engaged at this time, but seeing each other exclusively. He did not put my name in the will at that time and gave everything "property and personal affects to his two sons". He left his ex wife "in trust" of the money so they wont waste it (all legal) and made the boys executors (also legal).
I have to fight now for my "right to election" as his spouse to get anything at all. I think i keep just the house i am in now and lose all money from any bank accts etc.
I had such a rough week with feeling so sick and in pain on thanksgiving plus crying all day because he was not there. Now I open this letter today. I have till dec 6 to sign away everything. My daughter is in contact with a lawyer from manhattan and he is going to review the will on monday.
PLEASE PRAY for me. I have never felt so lost in all my life. God bless those on here who have helped me in all ways! You are the only ones in my life, beside my children, that give me a reason to live. ann
-------------------- Diagnosed with chronic neuro lyme 12/10 after 30 years of vertigo.2 tick bites in 3 yrs from upstate NY. Was on omincef for nine mths..zith and rifampin stopped.Remission~ All the pain and symptoms are back and I am not treating now with biaxin. Posts: 788 | From New york..queens | Registered: Nov 2010
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I'm so sorry you are going through all this pain. You are in my prayers for the Lord to lead you to victory through this battle and give you healing peace.
Your daughter is good to help you. It's right to lean on your children at this time and know that we are holding you up in prayer. You will make it through!
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Oh sweetie ... It will get better. It has to.
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Ann,
I am praying for you!
God has a plan for you, it just isn't apparent yet.
I agree...let your children help you as much as possible right now.
You WILL make it through all of this.
God will hold your head above the water when it feels like you are sinking....and we will be your floaties.
Do not give up!! With time, you will come out of this stronger than before.
Praying, praying, praying for you, Ann!
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The letter you got really doesn't change much from what you already knew. The bottom line is that to settle an estate all assets and liabilities are listed. In this case the property would only be listed at 50% of the value if only one son is on the deed or at 33% if both sons are on the deed. The judge may require that the property be appraised so at this point a value probably cannot be assigned to all the assets.
You should not sign anything until a lawyer tells you to.
Sometimes property has to be sold to divide assets. If you are entitled to 1/3 of the estate or whatever amount as the spouse this includes a share in the property. Until the estate is valued you don't know how much cash is available. You could keep a share of the property or the son would have to buy out your share and the money goes into the pot that gets divided up. The same goes for any vehicles.
The big problem is that all that takes time. But a lawyer should be able to get you an advance against the estate assets if there was cash in the bank so you can pay current bills. But vehicles and other major assets probably cannot be sold without the approval of the judge.
Keep looking for a lawyer to help. It sounds like you will need one since the will is not valid.
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Thank you for that info...He had not money left in the bank so no advance I guess.
I have a large mortgage on this house so many have said that his ex will probably just settle in giving me this house since she has three mortgage free upstate and the house he gave her here in the city for their divorce..She owes nothing on any of them. I am praying she agrees.
It does state in the will that his funeral expenses are to be paid by the estate so I hoep I get the 18K back I have on credit cards for his funeral. At leat that would give me some credit left to see my lyme doc again.
-------------------- Diagnosed with chronic neuro lyme 12/10 after 30 years of vertigo.2 tick bites in 3 yrs from upstate NY. Was on omincef for nine mths..zith and rifampin stopped.Remission~ All the pain and symptoms are back and I am not treating now with biaxin. Posts: 788 | From New york..queens | Registered: Nov 2010
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it sounds like she's vindicative enough to go after your house, even if she doesn't want it. be prepared for this.
i know you may not want to consider this, but stay in the house as long as possible, then maybe a nice condo or apartment.
and yes you can present the funeral bills to the court for payment by the estate. it might mean less for you eventually but then you might get something back.
may i ask why he didn't change things immediately, as soon as you got married?
i didn't realize my husband had marine corps life insurance and after we were married, oh less than a year, i found and was horrified to see his ex-wife's name on everything.
i went in and told him and he changed everything right then. he said "oh i forgot all about those things".
yeah right, she would have taken every single penny, you betcha...and there would have been nothing i could do.
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Randi...we were married ten days short of a year when he died. He kept saying he had to make a new will but was always engrossed taking care of me and fixing the problems at the upstate house.
He thought he was invincible. I filed my "right of election" to get my 1/3 of his estate today. The lawyer will get paid at the end from the esteat money.
Please pray that this goes smoothly. I am still dealing with the malpractice suit for the dilaudid that caused my husband to go into respiratory failure. I have years of problems ahead it seems and I am in so much pain again these days. Severe headaches are back and pain in every single joint and muscle....
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honey~ I wish I could wrap my arms around you and hug you!
I pray that you'll feel our Heavenly father doing just that!
I pray that He sends MANY too you, to be HIS hands/feet~ to hold you up, love you up, and lift you up in prayer when you may be too weary to do so for yourself!
Praying you'll find a little more strength (body AND mind) for each new day!
I don't know you~ but I LOVE you! (my heart breaks for you!)
Sending love, hugs, & prayers!
-------------------- I can do all thing through Christ who strengthens me. Taking things one day at a time... trying to get my life back. Posts: 35 | From mid west | Registered: Sep 2011
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Abxnomore
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Hi Annier,
I can't even begin to think about what you are going through and being so sick yourself. I'm very glad to know that you filed for your 1/3 of the estate. I knew that in NYS a man cannot disinherit his wife and that would hold true whether or not he had an updated will.
Hang in there. You know we are all thinking of you.
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