randibear
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i think i told you that husband's son has left his wife of 8 years for a woman with two small children.
just said "oh i'm not happy" and goes off and has this affair and dumps the wife.
where was i? oh yes. so you can tell i'm not too happy. but husband supports his son.
so we get this email from his soon to be ex saying i am moving and here's my address.
husband says delete that, don't respond. ignore her. and i'm going "wth?" just because his son is being a jerk doesn't mean i have to loose contact with her. it's not her fault at all here.
so why can't i keep in contact with her? he says "oh you might tell her about this woman." duh....she already knows..you idiot...
so if you have ex's, do you keep in touch with them or would you prefer to cut all your family ties to them?
-------------------- do not look back when the only course is forward Posts: 12262 | From texas | Registered: Mar 2007
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I say be friends with whom you want to be friends with !!
Just because he is done with her you have to be?????
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Keebler
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- Why give anyone the power to tell you with whom you may (or may not) communicate? No one's been able to tell me that since I was about ten years old.
It matters not what they think. It's not their business. It is your business, YOUR relationships so you decide to stay in touch with whomever you desire.
Just because two people divorce, there are still certain ties that bind. And you need not even discuss the missing party, ever. It's not about him. It's about you and her (whether you think of her as a friend or family member).
This is not unusual at all. Many relationships are built along life's path and just because one domino falls, they all don't have to crumble. -
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Yuck. What is wrong with people? This woman did nothing wrong, and while it's fine to support your children, it's not fine to lower yourself to their level when they screw up.
Your instincts are right, randibear. It wouldn't be right to just delete her email and pretend she doesn't exist. I bet she's hurting right now and turning your back like your husband wants you to do would be throwing salt on the wound.
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linky123
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She needs you, I'm sure, and you understand her situation. I would stay in touch if it were me.
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Marz
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Sounds like this poor woman could use a lot of support and she obviously cares about you.
Your husband must see it as "taking sides" but family is still important ex or not.
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Take the high road and keep in touch with her. It sounds like she has not done anything to you.
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Lymedin2010
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Unfortunately, the way I've seen this played out with many is that family usually get upset and emotional when not siding with them. This let to permanent family issues and resentment.
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