kam
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I have difficulty thinking in my head since lyme and company.
So typing this out.
Last night I was out after dark toileting Rosie in my power chair.
I was on the sidewalk right next to the apartments.
A neighbor had their door open.
I turned around and went the other way because their cat was out and I have trouble getting Rosie to obey me when I cat is in the area.
But, Rosie still needed to pee when we got to the lobby doors of the apartment.
I started heading down the sidewalk in an area where other dogs pee and Rosie some times will go pee.
The guy with the open door did this weird walk towards me...kind of a loung (sp?) and also walking or sliding his feet fast towards us.
I don't know what he said to me as the brain couldnt' process it.
I told him he better sit down before he falls down. I turned my power chair around and was heading out of the area.
Instead of going back to his patio chair he followed me in the power chair and then sat on the bench outside of the lobby.
He continued to talk but I couldnt' take in most of what he was saying.
I saw him in the lobby awhile back and he shouldn't have been on his feet then either.
I wasn't sure what was going on.
Someone asked him if he was all right.
I shook my head no to the person who was asking.
He then passed by her heading out the door.
She said he had been drinking.
I don't know if he had been drinking the other night.
He said he fell on the way to the trash can and he was stone sobber...I did catch that sentence.
Either way...he is behaving weird.
I know i will be steering clear of him.
I just don't know whether to let management or the maintenance guy know.
it is usually at night when the mgr or the maintenance guy is not here.
As I am typing this, I think I will let the maintenance guy know. he is here for 8 hrs a day.
The mgr is here for only 3 hrs a day.
Kind of a heads up thing in case anyone else has noticed his strange behavior.
I did not feel safe last night.
I made sure my doors were locked and that if he did knock on them I had decided I would not answer.
I don't know if it is due to being drunk or if he has health problems.
I know he has a wife who is wheel chair bound. I don't know if she is still living or in the hospital or in the apartment.
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poppy
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It might be drink, bad intentions, or he could have some health problem too that is affecting his brain. Seems like someone ought to look into it, and I would think management ought to know. They can spend part of their 3 hours looking into it.
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lpkayak
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my brother lives in a place like you and they are very strict about keeping it safe for the residents. i think you should tell someone. whether he is the one that needs to be kept safe or you guys are...i think it best to tell someone.
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Ditto what kayak said!! Management needs to know .. for the safety of everyone there. (the man included)
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i agree. better safe than sorry. you don't know who you are dealing with anymore. he could have a long record or just be wierd. better to tell management and let them deal with it.
but just in case, you might want to start documenting this encounters. if something happens later on, it would be good to have something that said you told them about it.
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kam
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I agree. I will put something down on paper and then put it in the rent box slot.
I don't even know if we have a manager at this point. If so, it is a new person.
HIs wife had/has full time caregivers so they should know something too.
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kam
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Thanks. Since lyme and company...I don't usually understand what is going on...I just get this glitch that tells me something is out of sorts here.
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Hey Kam- next time you can call the police too- I had to do that before- even if you just see him outside acting up and don't interact. That's why there is a charge for public intoxication. If it's not substance related, they can determine if he needs medical assistance.
You live there and should not ever have to feel afraid! And like Lymetoo said, it might help him too.
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Considering property employees are there so few hours and the encounters seem to
happen at night, I echo Daynise's suggestion to call the police when it happens again.
If you feel unsafe it is better to have them look into helping the man.
Yes, also let the property employees know what behaviors you are encountering.
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randibear
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you know you can enter the name of your apartment complex on the computer. it will come up and tell you who lives in the vicinity and whether they are sex offenders, etc.
well, at least you can do it for complexes in ohio, don't know about the state where you live.
but being female, i definitely want to know who lives around me.
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kam
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update on neighbor...the emergency services took him to the hospital yesterday morning.
I found this out thru the grapevine...his wife was put into a care center and the rumor is he has been drinking himself to death.
He was trying to take care of her himself and wasn't able to.
I loose track of time but when they first moved in she had just been in a car accident which put her in a power chair full time.
Hoping they will be able to help him in the hospital.
I know I do plan on steering clear of his place when I am out toileting Rosie.
My guess is he will not stop drinking over night.
The rumor was that his wife just had someone come in the mornings to get her out of bed.
I know another person who lived here also just had someone in the mornings to get them out of bed.
He too was in a car accident and was wheel chair bound. he was living here with his mom while he was building a house.
bottom line is I don't understand why they did not get more help.
One neighbor has 40 hrs a week help here as she has seizures and other health issues and is in a power chair.
This guy use to sit on his patio and was fine until Dec. His wife was put into the hospital for 2 weeks in DEc and then the care center sometime after that.
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kam
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Randibear...I did look up this addresss at one time.
The turn around in apartments is unbelievable. People moving in and out all the time.
I miss living in a house big time but am thankful for this place to live.
My hope is I will some how be able to own my own home again.
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kam
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Side note: it took me 3 tries before I was able to talk with a neighbor while out toileting Rosie.
1st try, I just couldn't do it.
2nd try, I was on my feet and had to come back in doors and lay down after the standard how are you doing...
3rd try, brain co operated and I was able to take in a few sentences. Weird how all of this is.
2nd try, I was just getting up and feeling like I could put some laundry away when my neighbor walked by.
Those few sentences set me back and I felt awful. It took me awhile to recover. Made me mad also.
I blame teh person at times when in reality I know it is the disease that is the problem.
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lpkayak
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glad you got some answers of the neighbor-hope he gets the help he needs
where my brother lives they would not allow that. they wont let you smoke or drink if the drink causes a problem or be loud.
they screen ppl very well and it turns out to be 80% very frail older women and a few quiet men. i am so greatful my brother got in-it took a lot off my stress list.
but kam-i hope they dont let him back if he is dangerous...even it he is going thru a hard time-its not fair to the rest of you trying to hold things together
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That is really sad about your neighbor. It must be a horrible shock to him to have his wife be in a home. I'm sure he feels guilty over it and misses her. What a shame.
I'm very glad he is getting help and that you are safe. Just keep making sure you avoid him.
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