Here is the link to the AARP that my Dad saw. Click on the picture of the blonde woman. They showed this commercial on CNN, which would have made it legit in his eyes.
This made a difference in my life and my memories of my father.
Thank you all for your kind words and support. I have to go through life dealing with so much right now, and keep a positive outlook.
But when I log on here I get to cry with you guys (all 3,000 of my closest friends, I like to say,) even if it is for just two minutes. I just sit here and bawl my eyes out, then get back to work. Thanks for caring and for being there.
The amazing thing at this time is that my health is fine. I don't understand it, but my need for cortef is decreasing, my adrenals are stronger, and energy testing isn't showing any signs of lyme at the moment. Just a bit of some other random less virulent stuff to chase around when I can get around to it.
-------------------- bejoy!
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great commercial... we can all forward this to our own families.... I especially like the part when she said she had good health insurance and still had to file bankruptcy..
keep that ...bawling coming....if it doesn't come out in tears it will come out in illness.. so let it out...
mtree
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bejoy,
thanks for touching base with us all again..
yes, when that link was posted, we all marveled and wwere thanking aarp for having done this!!
so glad it turned the corner for your dad to look at lyme differently!
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My condolences to you and your family Bejoy.
-------------------- Do not take this as medical advice. This comment is based on opinion and personal experience only.
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Bejoy I am so sorry to hear about your Dad's passing. I went to a concert on Sunday and one of the performers said he use to think when someone died they left but his little son sees the performer's parents often even thought they have passed on. The performer said now he thinks when one dies they do not leave. They may leave their body but they do not leave us.
I am glad your dad passed while he was doing something he loved to do.
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i'm so sorry bejoy. so much love to you & your family. <3
lymednva
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May you find comfort in the memories you have of your dad. Now that both my parents are gone I find I am much more keenly aware of how much they taught me and guided me in my life while they were here.
Thanks for sharing about him with us. He sounds like he was quite a man!
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I am sorry for your loss - may he be flying the heavenly skies.
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bejoy
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Farewell party complete. I saw his shining angel spirit hanging above his friends as they paid him tribute at the podium. He joined us for that beer, and asked us to have another for him. A squadron of pilots did a fabulous fly-by in the missing man formation after the service.
When you are a lymie, everything makes you wonder, and everything looks like lyme.
When you are a survivor of someone who dies, everything becomes personal. You want to be responsible for the problem, so you can feel some semblance of control, to think you could fix it or avoid it in the future.
There was no indication of any mechanical error, and these were seasoned pilots. The only thing the other pilots say that makes sense is a medical situation, like too many G's causing low blood pressure after a loop. Heavier men, like the other pilot, tend to keep their blood pressure up better.
The day before when my dad was here, I was on heavy lyme nosode treatment that seemed to be impacting my daughter with a herx. She got EM's when I first started lyme nosodes. I have sucessfully taken nosodes and homeopathics as a surrogate for other family members.
I showed my father my LED, and used it on him. His reponse was "is this pseudo-science?" Mine was "I've read the NASA research, have you?"
I'm sick with the idea that he lost blood pressure from a lyme herx. But the idea is too out of the box to hold water anywhere but in my own little tortured mind.
-------------------- bejoy!
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tdtid
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Bejoy,
It sounds like you had a very nice remembrace of your dad. The pilots with the fly by sounds like a touch that would have made your dad smile too.
I definitely know about all your feelings of emotion regarding lyme and seeing it everywhere.
I don't know if this will help any, but since I had told you that my husband is also a personal pilot, we had discussed your dad.
My husband also has been flying with other pilots and one thing he said is that when they fly together, the other one is ALWAYS ready to cover the controls at any time. It's just a pilot thing.
So even in the extremely unlikely event that you had done ANYTHING that could have effected your father's health, we are certain you did nothing that would have effected the other pilot as well...so please don't feel you could be responsible in ANY way.
My husband loves flying and he's never met a pilot that didn't feel the same way.
As sad as the passing is of your father, he was doing what he loved in life.
So the next time you see a plane fly overhead, let it bring a smile to your face and remember the fond memories you have had with your dad.
It's obvious he loved you very much.
Cathy
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bejoy
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Cathy, your reply really helped.
It's just that from what I understand, if one of the pilots in the biplane passed out leaning on the stick, it would be impossible for the other pilot to correct.
What's done is done, and there's no replaying the scenario. It's just a bit freaky going over the why's.
I know he's okay now. It's just the rest of us not being quite ready to have him gone yet.
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I am truly touched that you had that moment together where he teared up. He was truly blessed to be able to spend precious moments with you and his grandchildren before his passing.
Wishing you love and strength,
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dmc
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Bejoy, I am sadden by your loss. All you wrote here has made me feel as if I was/am part of your family.
Your dad was a wonderful, full of life man...see,I feel as if I was at the memorial too.
Thank you for sharing your dad with me.
donna
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tdtid
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Bejoy,
Sadly, second guessing and worrying are part of the grief process. I think most of us that have lost a family member even from illness, will wonder if there was ANYTHING they could have done to change it.
My pain purpose for writing here is to TRY to help you lift some of the burden you are feeling through this. With that said, if you weren't mourning, we would wonder what was wrong with YOU.
You have had a horrid loss in your life.
From another pilots perspective (my husband), while it's correct that such a scenario, of passing out on the stick and significantly impeding motion, is possible, it's also highly unlikely for a couple of reasons.
First, when performing aerobatics, all pilots are secured by a fairly comprehensive retraint system. This includes a shoulder harness.
It would be difficult for a pilot, so restrained, to pass out in such a way that they'd restrict the control stick.
Second, short of getting wedged in such a way as to prevent movement, which isn't likely, a pssed out person on the stick would simply create an inconvenience.
Couple that with the fact that there are also rudder pedals and it's difficult to imagine an environment where a pssed out person completely impeded the controls to the point of loss of control.
With this all said, my ONLY reason is to help you remove ANY FORM OF GUILT from yourself. You are understandably hurting.
Just saying that what ever treatment you may feel you did on your dad to help him is incredibly unlikely to the point of statistical improbality.
You were able to share some very real and wonderful times with your dad and it sounds like he actually was coming around on understanding your lyme.
Just that alone says so much about his character since I know most of us know too many people that still don't believe all this lyme stuff.
Hold on tightly to the memories that you have of your dad and they will always be with you in your heart. Again, I'm sooooo very sorry.
Hugs, Cathy
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I am so sorry you lost your father. My thoughts are with you.
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Tracy9
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HI Bejoy, Just a small clarifying question; I thought the other pilot was the one flying the plane?
Either way I can totally understand your thought processes; I am still doing some of that over both my beloved grandmothers and father's deaths now 13 and 10 years ago.
I had seen some of the articles about the crash; but had thought you said earlier you dad was not the one flying.
So glad you saw him as the shining angel that he now is.
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