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We buried our 24 yr old son Dec. 06. I can truly feel your pain, sorrow and grief.
My deepest, heartfelt thoughts are with you during this time.
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AliG
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I can't even imagine the horrible grief you must be feeling. What an absolute tragedy!
I am SO sorry for your loss and also for the losses of the others who have posted in this thread.
I pray that God will be with all of you and bring you peace, comfort and strength in your times of need.
Ali
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bitten/shy,
so sorry to read you also lost your precious son in dec. also!! i was going to send you a private message, you in MY PROFILE, you have chosen NOT TO ENABLE PMs; so we can not contact you that way.
please consider changing that for occasions like this; you can block anyone that might bother you, etc.
i hope you will read the sympathy poems i posted above for your son as well! may you feel his precious around you, and each penny you find; that's your son dropping for you to find!
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Silverwolf
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<<<<< Aries and all of Adams Family and Friends and the Others here w/ Recent loss >>>>>,
Sending Prayers for comfort in this difficult time of loss. May Creators Angels hold each one close...May peace descend.
Sincerely, from Silverwolf
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dmc
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I am so sorry your son has passed. How tragic one so young has suffered so much in his life. sending you prayers and a hug.
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My heart is overflowing. I am very sorry to hear about Adam's passing. He must have brought you so much joy. He sounds like a remarkable and precious young man. How blessed that you were chosen for him and he for you.
I cannot imagine what these days are like for you right now, and can understand your wondering how you will go on. You have loved and cared for your child as no one else could have.
I pray that you are surrounded by loved ones who will help you carry this and I am hoping it will help you and your family to know that there are so many of us as parents who have feared and come close to facing the same, who care deeply.
And I pray for comfort and a faith that will hold you up while you grieve and find your way through to a place of peace. I know it will take time. I just hope for you that it comes quickly.
You do not ever have to forget how precious and valuable your Adam was in your life, nor how he added to the character of who you are as a man. His story is a golden nugget to be shared with others to help bring understanding to this horrific disease.
I am beyond words at the ongoing suffering that results from this disease and all that lies beneath it that places our children in such compromise. You will have a voice for others, in time, as you are ready to speak. For now, just as Elisabeth Elliott spoke during her radio program and in her writings.. "just do the next thing."
I will be praying for you and yours in the days and weeks ahead. Please let us know how you are doing.
God bless, Sojourner
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Funeral arrangements are being made by Ferguson's Funeral Home, Route 94, Vernon, NJ 07462. Visiting hours will take place Tuesday January 15 from 2 to 4pm and 7 to 9pm. The funeral service will be on Wednesday January 16 at 11am. If you have any questions, the funeral home telephone number is 973-827-6600.
Please attend the funeral if you are able, to support the family.
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Andie333
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I was so sorry to hear about Adam. My heart goes out to you, Tim, and to your family. And my prayers.
Andie
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I'm so sorry. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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adamm
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Oh my god-- my deepest sympathy will be with you! The work I'm
doing now on the cello (this
truly is my prayer) will be done in his honor.
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i don't know what to say... except i feel so sorry
for your loss, and for all the pain you must be
feeling... and just maybe he is finally at peace.
and one day you will be together again, and will
not feel this time you spent apart.
Your words are so sad, but your strength is so
reassuring, for all of us who suffer still.
I will think of your son when i want to be
strong, and know that he died like a Hero in
some way...
take care now, and know that we are all here with
you forever.
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I am so very sorry to hear of your tremendous loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hugs, Kathy
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I am in tears reading about your loss and I wish my tears could take away even a fraction of the pain you must be feeling, but I know that isn't possible.
Whoever said your son died a hero's death is so right. Having to muster up so much courage so young is heroic. He must have been an incredibly strong young man. I hope you can feel some of that strength as you deal with this pain.
Even if they do, as you wrote, "blame the pills the person but not this dam disease" we know the truth, and we are here to validate your truth, and to speak the truth for Adam.
Sending you much love and comfort.
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Tim, I'm so sorry for your unimaginable loss.
I hope you can feel the love and support from even those of us you do not know personally.
It's so hard to imagine losing a child. Please take what comfort and support you receive. I will pray a dream of great peace comes to comfort you as well, from a dimension otherwise unreachable. This happened to me after losing my little brother, and also my fiance. It was an enormous comfort.
Thinking of you,
Michele
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Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. I hope you can share with us more about your son when you feel ready to.
sincerely, Trails
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kelmo
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For those of us fighting for the life of our own children, this breaks my heart.
Prayer for protection from the evil one and that you would have God's provision of love and comfort.
You did everything you could, and your son knows it.
So sorry for your precious loss. Posts: 2903 | From AZ | Registered: Feb 2006
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bettyg
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breaking this up for easier reading of details.
quote:Originally posted by pmerv:
Funeral arrangements are being made by Ferguson's Funeral Home, Route 94, Vernon, NJ 07462.
Visiting hours will take place Tuesday January 15 from 2 to 4pm AND 7 to 9pm. ********************************
The funeral service will be on Wednesday January 16 at 11am. ************
If you have any questions, the funeral home telephone number is 973-827-6600. ***********************************
I also hope many of you in NJ might be able to attend either the visitation or funeral to help Tim as he grieves for Adam.
Please attend the funeral if you are able, to support the family. [/QB]
treepatrol
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So Sorry May God comfort you.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have any magical words for you, but know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Know this, also, we don't have to know you personally to understand and care.
May comfort be yours, Tammy
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I am sorry to hear about the loss of your SON. I lost my daughter, then my wife and then my father - first my daughter from Kidney Failure, then after a time my wife from MS and then right away, my father. My wife and my father died while I was in the middle of Lyme disease myself. So, I have some idea of your state of mind and heart now. I will tell you that my daughter became my HERO when I got very sick - and I held her in my heart and thought of her in each struggle I had. She inspirted me to continue to struggle and have courage. All of these who have left this physical world are still with me and are helping me. This is know and I want to encourage you to remember the struggle and courage of your son and let that inspire you to continue to live life and to offer hope to others, because you have overcome. This is part of my life now - to help encourage others, no matter now I personally may feel God and his Angels Bless you now and bring you through this with love in your heart for all who have this disease. We ALL needs each others love and encouragement and inspiration. Glen from High Bridge, NJ.
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God bless you & keep you close. I lost my sister in 1978 at the age of 23 to bipolar illness(self-inflicted gunshot wound). We believe she may have had Lyme.
I understand the unique pain that comes from suicide. My son also has Lyme. He's 11. Thank you for sharing your sorrow. I don't know if I can spare my son the same fate as his aunt, but I will continue to battle for all of us.
You are so brave for sharing your experience. I wish I could reach out & hug you. Posts: 81 | From Iowa | Registered: May 2007
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I am so very sorry for your loss. Your son left this world as a hero who did all he could until he recognized he could do no more here on earth.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and all who have lost loved ones to this horrible disease.
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Many are committed to doing what we can to right all the insane wrongs that surround Lyme disease. It makes me so so so angry. We are with you, for ourselves, our family members and friends, suffering people across the country, loved ones and strangers, and you and your son and your family.
Peace to you
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I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your son. I cannot imagine the pain in losing someone so young,or the pain and heartache of watching him go through the struggles of this disease.
My heart goes out to you and your family and we will keep you in our prayers.
JJ
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I am so, so sorry!!
JoAnne
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I have a 19 year old who is suffering with this terrible disease and i cannot imaging what it would be like without her. I will pray for you that you will have comfort and peace. Again i am truly sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family.
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Please accept my depest sympathy and know that you are in my prayers.
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My sincere condolences for you and your family.
Mourning with you......
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I am so sorry. Peace,comfort and love to you.
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Tim - thinking of you today - just know that we all care and are very sorry for your loss. And support to everyone else too who has lost loved ones.
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss, please know we are all here for you.
We have much work to do to change the injustice that lyme patients suffer. god bless Brandon
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I have been thinking of Adam and his family all week.....
sending them lots of prayers .....
so so heartwrenching..... mtree
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I have found great support by attending The Compassionate Friends meetings. I am fortunate in that I have two groups that meet the first and third Wednesday of the month.
For me- talking with other parents who truly understand the depths of pain has allowed me to get my own situation in perspective.
Once we are forced to embark on the journey of grief, we find it is never over, we just learn to find our way-with each other.
At the last meeting I attended Jan. 16th I heard two things that made sense. 1. We do not "move on" after the death of a child, we "continue on". 2. God does not take. God receives.
Recently I attended a conference for Bereaved Parents outside of Philly. The first night at registration, I broke down and sobbed uncontrollably-but I was comforted by the realization that I was surrounded by people who understood. There was no need to apologize .
By Sunday morning I was feeling proud to be part of such a courageous group of people. Unafraid to meet their grief head on-and living their lives to the fullest-inspite of the emptiness.
My children, Barbie and Tommy, died of catastrophic medical complications in Spring 2004.
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I was so very sorry to hear about the loss of your son. This is every parents worst nightmare and my heart goes out to all of you. I'm so sorry.
Cathy
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Words never do justice to convey emotions at such a time...
Prayers, thoughts, sympathy, and warmth to you and your family.
Your son's bravery touches us all, as does your loss.
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