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for my friends who remember mgh lyme chat TOFU and NY and washington it is with great sadness that I have to write you and say yet another victom of lyme disease has fallen Adam Rowett 18 years old has dealt with lyme disease from 1997 along with myslf he was a brave little trooper who hardly ever complained even the weeks and months of anbxs that we had to mix into his frozen yougert kept smileing but from that time untill now it kept comeing causeing severe mood swings and as he became a young adult it became more then he could deal with takeing more and more medications untill it finaly won I found him thismorning dead we have to wait for the official death report and as always they are going to blame the pills the person but not this dam disease I cant saymore tonight through my tears and sadness I doent know how i,m going to go on myself
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for my friends who remember mgh lyme chat
TOFU and NY and washington
it is with great sadness that I have to write you and say yet another victom of lyme disease has fallen
Adam Rowett 18 years old has dealt with lyme disease from 1997
along with myslf he was a brave little trooper who hardly ever complained even the weeks and months of anbxs that we had to mix into his frozen yougert
kept smileing but from that time untill now it kept comeing causeing severe mood swings
and as he became a young adult it became more then he could deal with takeing more and more medications untill it finaly won
I found him thismorning dead we have to wait for the official death report and as always they are going to blame the pills the person but not this dam disease
I cant saymore tonight through my tears and sadness I doent know how i,m going to go on myself
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OH Aries! I'm SOOOO sorry to hear this! I can't begin to imagine what this must be like for you and your family.
Please come here for support when you are able. We DO care and will whatever we can for you.
I pray that you will find strength and comfort.
Aries
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aries, i'm so sorry to read of your beloved son, adam's death today! 18; that is not right that one so young should have to go thru lyme disease, and that it take him before he's had a chance to LIVE LIFE!
my heart aches for you for all the pain and sorrow you feel, but so glad his suffering is over.
i'm including my link for my sympathy collection, and you'll find many in there to comfort you now and in the days, months, and years ahead.
2 of my very favorites are:
when tomorrow starts without me,
I'M FREE AT LAST ... for those who have been sick and no cure was to be found! We used for my Mom and sister.
when you are really missing Adam, put on a video tape of him; it helps hearing his voice and laughter, and then watching his gestures and mannerisms.
if you don't have a video, see if a family member of friend does, and have them make 2 copies. 1 for lock box; 1 for you to play often as it will get run out.
come back here as often as you need too; we'll help you thru this.
if you have a HOSPICE near you, they have berievement classes 6 months after a loved one's death; very helpful. i've been thru it 3 times during losss of 4 family members.
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I'm so sorry to read this. This is wrong what he and any young person, and anyone of us, should have to go through. I know your grief is big now.
I think those of us who have gone through the Lyme/co experience have great value to others due to our ability to warn them so as to help them avoid this fate, if this can give you any meaning and consolation in time.
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May God bless you and keep you. My heart hurts for you.
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Oh God, Aries. This is horrible. I am so , so sorry for what you must be going through. I wish I had some magic healing words to help you.
We will be here when you need to talk. Know how much we all feel for you during this nightmare. Ellen
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I am so sorry for your loss, may God surround you with comforting angels. Your family will be in my prayers.
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Tincup sent this post to me and I want to say how sorry I am. I feel there is a bond between all of us Lyme patients that transends even from one world to the next and that you son will feel our love and he will find peace. I hope that you will find peace also and know that we send our love to you, too. Eva
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Oh sweetie, I lost my wonderful husband on December 21st at age 52...I can't say that I know your pain as a mother, but I do have the flavor of the deep loss that you are living right now...I cannot say enough that you are loved and that this is totally unfair and wrong...and that you are a marvelous, loving mother...He was blessed to have you...This is pain that I cannot measure...and something I cannot fix or plan for....I just try to stay in the raft through the rapids...they always end at some point, so my only effort has to be to stay in the raft...Stay in your raft you wonderful woman...You have a story to tell when you have rested and have your soul feeling strong enough...Until then, let others carry you...let others love you...ask for help and accept it without resistance...
I am and will be thinking of you daily....hourly if need be...This is as bad as it gets...no question...You go on one minute at a time....one hour at a time....rest when ever you can and your body asks you to...eat chocolate and keep posting here and letting us in to support you...I would be lost without the support of others and I am in no way accustomed to do this....
Much love and arms around you....
Carol Ann Schaffner Wife of John Wampler, the most wonderful man in my life, always with a positive attitude and love in his heart...a better man than I could ever be...My true love...Please feel free to email me or call.... [email protected]Posts: 1062 | From CA USA | Registered: Jan 2001
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I am so, so sorry to hear this.
Hugs DLL
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Dear Aries,
My heart is breaking for you and your family.
I am so sorry.
I am asking God to surround you and your family with his Angels.
I ask our Father to strengthen your family with his love
And to hold your son close to him.
I am so sorry.
Geneal
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I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please hang in there with us and I pray that you will find comfort and strength.
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I am so sorry. It must be extremely hard.
We are here for you.
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As the parent of a teen with Lyme, please accept my sympathy, my tears, and my understanding.
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Oh, how horrible and tragic. No mother should have to go through such a nightmare. No child should have to go through such a horrific disease. My heart goes out to you.
I pray for healing.
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Aries, I am so sorry that you and your son have suffered so with these damn diseases.
Except for the intervention of EMT's, ER docs and God answering prayers in time, we would have also traveled down this path. Our daughter has made 16 attempts.
Just remember that you did all that you could do. These diseases are horrible opponents and our kids just get so tired of the fight.
May God hold you in his hands and may the pain in your heart lesson with time and that you can remember the good times. hugs lmt
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I know you must have such pain and sorrow. May God grant you His comfort right now. May He wrap His arms around you.
God bless you.
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aries, my deepest sympthathies on your loss.
our best friends son also died on december 29th. he was 35.
i am deeply sorry. he was so young.
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Aries, of my dear. No words can heal your heavy heart now. Please come back here soon for loving support from all of us at lymenet.
May the Lord carry you during this time of tremendous pain.
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....Tears are dripping on my keyboard.....
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dear Aries-
even sympathetic words must sound like faraway noise to you.
i cannot begin to imagine how heartbroken you must be. i am so, so sorry that you have lost your precious son Adam.
i'll be adding my prayers to the many out there that you will find the strength to go on, however unimaginable that seems to you right now.
please, please, take care of yourself.
love, dilly
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My thoughts are prayers are with you. Posts: 1603 | From ny | Registered: Aug 2006
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Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I pray for strength for you to get through these difficult days. Know that you are surrounded by the love of all of us who care deeply.
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I am so sorry.
Adam and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Please come here if you ever need an ear to listen.
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Tim, I am so so sorry!!!!
I remember you well and I am so sorry!!!
Best wishes, Sarah from CA
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........my tears are for your pain and your loss........ my prayers are for you and your family to have strength...... my thoughts are of your son Adam and the fight he battled... ..too young....too soon.........
i am so so very sorry for your loss.... sincerly, mtree
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I am sorry to hear this. I have a son who suffers from Bipolar Disorder that I believe is Lyme related. I can understand the mood problems.
May you feel God's loving arms wrapped tightly around you to sustain you through this difficult time.
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I can't begin to tell you how very sorry I am. There is nothing more devasting than the loss of a child. My heart and sympathy goes out to you.
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I am so sorry to hear of your son, Adam. I also lost a child when she was nearly 17, my heart hurts for you.
There are no words I can say at this time that will comfort you. Just know that there are many of us here that are thinking of you and praying for you to have strength though this horrible time in your life.
If you ever need to talk please email me at [email protected] or PM here. I stay up late.....so I will get your message. If you need to talk, I can even give you my phone number.
Nights were my worst time.
Hugs and much love,
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I am so sorry to hear that.
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As a mom of a young adult with this dd, I just can't imagine but is my greatest fear. My heart breaks for you. May you find comfort at this very difficult time. Will be praying for you and family.
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Please accept my hearfelt sympathies. I can only imagine your pain. I pray for you.
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I am so very sorry for your loss. I have two young sons of my own. I cannot imagine the magnitude of what you must be going through.
While this is an excrutiating time, it is also a spiritual period with a lot of love being sent your family's way -- support both earthly and from above.
I send you my prayers, blessings and hugs and holds.
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We buried our 24 yr old son Dec. 06. I can truly feel your pain, sorrow and grief.
My deepest, heartfelt thoughts are with you during this time.
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I can't even imagine the horrible grief you must be feeling. What an absolute tragedy!
I am SO sorry for your loss and also for the losses of the others who have posted in this thread.
I pray that God will be with all of you and bring you peace, comfort and strength in your times of need.
Ali
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bitten/shy,
so sorry to read you also lost your precious son in dec. also!! i was going to send you a private message, you in MY PROFILE, you have chosen NOT TO ENABLE PMs; so we can not contact you that way.
please consider changing that for occasions like this; you can block anyone that might bother you, etc.
i hope you will read the sympathy poems i posted above for your son as well! may you feel his precious around you, and each penny you find; that's your son dropping for you to find!
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<<<<< Aries and all of Adams Family and Friends and the Others here w/ Recent loss >>>>>,
Sending Prayers for comfort in this difficult time of loss. May Creators Angels hold each one close...May peace descend.
Sincerely, from Silverwolf
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I am so sorry your son has passed. How tragic one so young has suffered so much in his life. sending you prayers and a hug.
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My heart is overflowing. I am very sorry to hear about Adam's passing. He must have brought you so much joy. He sounds like a remarkable and precious young man. How blessed that you were chosen for him and he for you.
I cannot imagine what these days are like for you right now, and can understand your wondering how you will go on. You have loved and cared for your child as no one else could have.
I pray that you are surrounded by loved ones who will help you carry this and I am hoping it will help you and your family to know that there are so many of us as parents who have feared and come close to facing the same, who care deeply.
And I pray for comfort and a faith that will hold you up while you grieve and find your way through to a place of peace. I know it will take time. I just hope for you that it comes quickly.
You do not ever have to forget how precious and valuable your Adam was in your life, nor how he added to the character of who you are as a man. His story is a golden nugget to be shared with others to help bring understanding to this horrific disease.
I am beyond words at the ongoing suffering that results from this disease and all that lies beneath it that places our children in such compromise. You will have a voice for others, in time, as you are ready to speak. For now, just as Elisabeth Elliott spoke during her radio program and in her writings.. "just do the next thing."
I will be praying for you and yours in the days and weeks ahead. Please let us know how you are doing.
God bless, Sojourner
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Funeral arrangements are being made by Ferguson's Funeral Home, Route 94, Vernon, NJ 07462. Visiting hours will take place Tuesday January 15 from 2 to 4pm and 7 to 9pm. The funeral service will be on Wednesday January 16 at 11am. If you have any questions, the funeral home telephone number is 973-827-6600.
Please attend the funeral if you are able, to support the family.
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I was so sorry to hear about Adam. My heart goes out to you, Tim, and to your family. And my prayers.
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I'm so sorry. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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Oh my god-- my deepest sympathy will be with you! The work I'm
doing now on the cello (this
truly is my prayer) will be done in his honor.
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i don't know what to say... except i feel so sorry
for your loss, and for all the pain you must be
feeling... and just maybe he is finally at peace.
and one day you will be together again, and will
not feel this time you spent apart.
Your words are so sad, but your strength is so
reassuring, for all of us who suffer still.
I will think of your son when i want to be
strong, and know that he died like a Hero in
some way...
take care now, and know that we are all here with
you forever.
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I am so very sorry to hear of your tremendous loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hugs, Kathy
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I am in tears reading about your loss and I wish my tears could take away even a fraction of the pain you must be feeling, but I know that isn't possible.
Whoever said your son died a hero's death is so right. Having to muster up so much courage so young is heroic. He must have been an incredibly strong young man. I hope you can feel some of that strength as you deal with this pain.
Even if they do, as you wrote, "blame the pills the person but not this dam disease" we know the truth, and we are here to validate your truth, and to speak the truth for Adam.
Sending you much love and comfort.
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Tim, I'm so sorry for your unimaginable loss.
I hope you can feel the love and support from even those of us you do not know personally.
It's so hard to imagine losing a child. Please take what comfort and support you receive. I will pray a dream of great peace comes to comfort you as well, from a dimension otherwise unreachable. This happened to me after losing my little brother, and also my fiance. It was an enormous comfort.
Thinking of you,
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Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. I hope you can share with us more about your son when you feel ready to.
sincerely, Trails
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For those of us fighting for the life of our own children, this breaks my heart.
Prayer for protection from the evil one and that you would have God's provision of love and comfort.
You did everything you could, and your son knows it.
So sorry for your precious loss. Posts: 2903 | From AZ | Registered: Feb 2006
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breaking this up for easier reading of details.
quote:Originally posted by pmerv:
Funeral arrangements are being made by Ferguson's Funeral Home, Route 94, Vernon, NJ 07462.
Visiting hours will take place Tuesday January 15 from 2 to 4pm AND 7 to 9pm. ********************************
The funeral service will be on Wednesday January 16 at 11am. ************
If you have any questions, the funeral home telephone number is 973-827-6600. ***********************************
I also hope many of you in NJ might be able to attend either the visitation or funeral to help Tim as he grieves for Adam.
Please attend the funeral if you are able, to support the family. [/QB]
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So Sorry May God comfort you.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have any magical words for you, but know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Know this, also, we don't have to know you personally to understand and care.
May comfort be yours, Tammy
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I am sorry to hear about the loss of your SON. I lost my daughter, then my wife and then my father - first my daughter from Kidney Failure, then after a time my wife from MS and then right away, my father. My wife and my father died while I was in the middle of Lyme disease myself. So, I have some idea of your state of mind and heart now. I will tell you that my daughter became my HERO when I got very sick - and I held her in my heart and thought of her in each struggle I had. She inspirted me to continue to struggle and have courage. All of these who have left this physical world are still with me and are helping me. This is know and I want to encourage you to remember the struggle and courage of your son and let that inspire you to continue to live life and to offer hope to others, because you have overcome. This is part of my life now - to help encourage others, no matter now I personally may feel God and his Angels Bless you now and bring you through this with love in your heart for all who have this disease. We ALL needs each others love and encouragement and inspiration. Glen from High Bridge, NJ.
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God bless you & keep you close. I lost my sister in 1978 at the age of 23 to bipolar illness(self-inflicted gunshot wound). We believe she may have had Lyme.
I understand the unique pain that comes from suicide. My son also has Lyme. He's 11. Thank you for sharing your sorrow. I don't know if I can spare my son the same fate as his aunt, but I will continue to battle for all of us.
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I am so very sorry for your loss. Your son left this world as a hero who did all he could until he recognized he could do no more here on earth.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and all who have lost loved ones to this horrible disease.
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